tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1562242809028645397.post603794802194884467..comments2023-07-12T09:12:47.432-04:00Comments on Palindrome Bride: Speaking Out Against Familymelindahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16952930687812804372noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1562242809028645397.post-44672315209483226302010-12-02T11:50:24.178-05:002010-12-02T11:50:24.178-05:00@LatteLove - I agree about the fine line. I'm...@LatteLove - I agree about the fine line. I'm a thinker, so I like to think about where the line is. I find that I'm less likely to speak up against many things unless I've already formulated my reasons against it.<br />@WildRice - I think your questions are really good introspective questions to ask. These work best for ongoing issues, or expected issues. Sounds like your experience might have been a situation where you didn't really have time to think through and that's how her comment ended up sliding through. Gosh, these family things are tricky no?<br />@Patience - yes, I agree, approach is key!melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16952930687812804372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1562242809028645397.post-50086988651486926182010-11-30T21:26:59.338-05:002010-11-30T21:26:59.338-05:00I have had to let my in-laws know their comments a...I have had to let my in-laws know their comments are disrespectful more than once. I am a firm believer in standing up for what you believe in and everyone is entitled to their opinion, BUT not at someone else's expense. I should never feel uncomfortable because of their words and/or actions. The way you approach it is what will make or break the family. Good Luck!Patiencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05389144705380750285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1562242809028645397.post-74915999595057012822010-11-30T17:55:40.869-05:002010-11-30T17:55:40.869-05:00There is a fine line. I always stop and think firs...There is a fine line. I always stop and think first. "Will this behavior affect my children?" "Will I harbor a hatred of this situation, and thus, dread family get-togethers?" If the answers are yes, then it comes to this: "If I speak up, is there a chanch the situation can be remedied?" If the answer again is yes, then I go for it. <br /><br />For me, racism/derogatory comments are absolute no's. I will not tolerate racism, in any form. So, I dont even think the above questions. For everything else though, I do. We had a situation with my mother-in-law in which I didnt stand up for my beliefs. She took it as approval and as me being tolerant of her behavior. Unfortunately, by the time I spoke up, it was too late to be remedied and now we are not speaking to my mother-in-law.<br /><br />However, if you cannot answer 'yes' to those questions, and it's not a red-flag situation that needs dealt with immediately, then it's best to ignore it. <br /><br />This is only the way -I- do things and it's something that's taken me years to figure out. However, sometimes it's best to talk about something that's bothering you, regardless of the outcome. Just because it's 'family' doesnt mean it's a golden ticket for bad behavior.Jenn Ricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12066159889891325627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1562242809028645397.post-33163091166704047542010-11-30T17:30:13.427-05:002010-11-30T17:30:13.427-05:00this is such a timely post after a family-filled w...this is such a timely post after a family-filled weekend!<br /><br />We don't have any severe family tension, but this is a great reminder of something I experienced this weekend--to put my husband's needs and wishes above that of my family--even if they are guests. <br />We are a family in our own right and our traditions and habits don't have to (and shouldn't) be abandoned for whatever my family is used it.<br /><br />I think there's a fine line (I'm not one to speak out unless a situation is really bad)Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10572216783774845766noreply@blogger.com